How to Make Your Elopement or Micro Wedding Feel Like You
One of the best things about planning a smaller wedding is that nothing has to be done out of obligation. You can keep what you love, leave the rest behind, and build a day around the things that feel honest, joyful, and unmistakably you. This post is here to help you do just that.
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Elopements and micro weddings aren’t missing anything - they’re making space. And in that space, you get to be more intentional, more present, and more connected. This post shares simple, heartfelt ideas to help you add personal meaning to your day - whether it’s just the two of you or you’re surrounded by a small group of your favourite people.
Why Personal Touches Matter
Big weddings often come with pressure - to perform, to please, to follow tradition. But when you strip things back to what matters most, the day becomes something far more personal.
A smaller day gives you the freedom to do less but feel more. And the beauty is, your version doesn’t need to be grand or expensive - it just needs to be you.
Simple Ways to Make It “You”
Here are just a few ideas of how you can add character, connection, and intention to your day - whether it’s just the two of you or a small gathering:
Write each other letters to read the morning of
Start the day with a shared activity - like making breakfast or taking a walk (or both!)
Create a playlist of your relationship soundtrack
Wear something with emotional or family meaning
Add some DIY personal touches to your space (signs, gifts, decor, etc)
Book a private dinning/meal or hire a chef for just the two of you
You don’t have to do them all - just the ones that speak to you.
Real Moments That Stayed With Me
Some of the most beautiful wedding memories I’ve captured weren’t posed or planned - they were quiet, personal moments that revealed what really mattered. Here are a few I’ll never forget:
Getting ready together
One couple got ready together, shared gifts, and even read their vows to each other before the ceremony.Handwritten guest notes
A couple wrote a short, personal message for every person at their micro wedding to let them know how much they meant to them. Everyone read them at the same time. There wasn’t a dry eye in the room.Polaroid guestbook
Each guest posed for a photo with the couple and wrote an accompanying message. It was a lot of fun but also really personal and lovely.
Final Thought
Hopefully these moments show that it’s not about doing something grand — it’s about doing what feels true. When it’s intentional and meaningful to you, that’s more than enough.
The best parts of an elopement or micro wedding aren’t about impressing anyone. They’re about connection. Between the two of you, but also with you loved ones who join you for the day.
So whatever shape your day takes - however big or small, structured or relaxed - trust yourself. Lean into what feels honest. And remember that meaning doesn’t live in the details - it lives in the people, the moments, and the choices that reflect who you are together.
Already Booked? Or Just Curious?
If we’re already working together - amazing! If you want to add a few of these ideas into your day, just reply to your last email and tell me what’s brewing in your brain. I’m all ears.
And if you’re still in the planning stage and this blog sparked an idea and has you excited, I’d love to chat and hear more!
